3 Wounds That Never Heal And The Love That Cannot Be Eternal

There are loves destined not to be…  to have a beginning and an end. They are like  summer storms  full of intense emotions, a refreshing rain that relieves the intense heat, an unquenched thirst. However, when the clouds cease, far from leaving the moisture of a field where nature can flourish, a barren and cracked field opens up. Where nothing will grow for a long time.

There are loves that pass by like a gentle wind, others end with a serene and loving distance, by mutual agreement, but there are some  that leave painful voids  that hurt us inside and change us.

Let’s talk about it today, let’s analyze the  “secondary effects”  that affective relationships can leave us in the form of sequels, and what is worth taking into account to make us reflect.

A reflection on emotional wounds

1. Is it true that we learn from every emotional failure?

We read and often listen…  There is no better teacher than pain, there is no better learning than vital pain at some point in our existence, so that we can move forward with greater security knowing what life is, understanding a little better people.

And, in fact, we are in agreement. However, there is one aspect that we must emphasize. Not all people acquire  “positive learning”,  not everyone can understand it that way. After an end, a mismatch, it takes some time to be able to look up again safely, it is necessary to go through a mourning process, through an internal process where “we reconstruct ourselves from the inside”.

What happens in these cases? That far from leaving strengthened, we left with sequelae. When someone harms us, we learn to wear armor,  when they lie to us, we learn to distrust, when they clip the wings of our personal growth, we avoid opening up to other people.

Do we then learn from this love that cannot be eternal? Of course, yes, but it is not always a positive learning experience, so we must pay close attention to how we are going to “re-adjust” to our reality.

Don’t let yourself be dragged by these negative cognitions, always be resilient to open doors to new opportunities.

2. The loss of innocence

To lose  innocence is to lose part of this sincere illusion, free from prejudice  with others, with the new relationships that can appear with fullness and emotion. After an emotional failure and the loss of a love in which we had so much hope, a part of us will  , irreparably , grow old.

Few things can be more hopeless than allowing our inner being to grow old, thus letting chips appear in  our heart, the cracks and the barren ground where nothing grows. This is where, from now on, a dense bitterness will wander, where it will be very difficult to return to receiving love with the illusion of the past.

It is good to be prudent and cautious, there is no doubt, but if we completely lose our innocence, we will let our “inner child” escape, and together with their spontaneity, something so fresh and innate, where relationships live with more intensity.

3. Eternal Voids

Loves that could never really be eternal are empty, formless, inhabited by lost dreams and disappointments.   For a lost time, but constant, remembered and evoked. It is possible to recover, even start new relationships and new life projects.

Happiness always comes back with wonderful second parts that we all deserve to enjoy, but there is something that will hide each day of our lives  in some corner of our heart and our memory, and this something we call “empty”. Because they are like those paths that we choose, believing that we would accomplish several projects we have been dreaming of, so that, in the end, we will have no choice but to make a change of direction, at the same time drastic and painful.

And, in our brain, this impossible path will always be part of us and who we are. It’s like having two parallel lives, the real one and the one of memories that we can’t erase, but that, in essence, are part of who we are.

The voids will always be and, as such, we must accept them.  They are those wounds that have not healed, but which we must learn to live with, integrating and accepting them, but preventing them from becoming black holes.

Let them be empty through which a gentle, fragrant wind emerges that we recall from time to time, but only for a few seconds. Then move forward into the here and now, where, without a doubt, your true happiness lies.