I’m Not In This World To Fulfill Other People’s Expectations

Whose are we really? Do we have to belong to someone? No, we are in this world to “be our own”:  the only expectations we have to fulfill are those we set for ourselves, not those others impose on us. 

It is very beautiful to think that the proximity that unites us to someone is so much that we can exclaim that something of us belongs to someone else, but nothing is further from reality.

Sometimes we have to be a little selfish and remember that the ambitions and goals we set for ourselves come from the inner essence. That’s why we have to take care of our self-esteem to create expectations and strengthen the hope of fulfilling them.

First we need our own expectations

Most people work to fulfill goals imposed by others,  dedicate part of their time to activities they do not want to do or are forced to lead a certain lifestyle in order to move forward.

Bearing in mind that there are circumstances that cannot be avoided,  we need our own expectations to make us sure that we can be happy with what we have. Ultimately, if we go back with the help of memory to the early years of our adulthood, we will all find different focuses that we would like to one day reach and others that we have already reached.

Those closest to us will be able to give us an opinion, support us and, of course, advise us if we give them that right. However,  the last word can only be ours:  we decide what we want to do with the time we have at hand and follow the path we consider opportune. Something no one can do for us!

Then we must defend these expectations

After creating certain expectations, it is necessary for us to shape them and fight to defend them:  learning to correctly define what we want will help us to orient our actions well towards this. In this way, it is good to understand that, like illusions and dreams, the goals we set ourselves are part of the gasoline that drives us to the right path.

Defending the expectations we set ourselves makes us  closer to the possible than to the impossible,  as it encourages us to grow as we repeatedly surpass ourselves. We have to assume that each one of us is capable of achieving what we set out to do, without letting ourselves be overcome by those who think we are not capable.

The words of others can also give us light

Advice from other people can always be helpful, and in many situations it is the light we need  as blindness sometimes takes over the steps we want to take.

That’s why it’s always good to listen, take into account the word of someone who loves us and see if it fits the thoughts we have in relation to events. It may be that the person gives us the answer, or that he gives us the impetus we needed to find him.

It’s okay for others to know the expectations we’ve set for us, and it doesn’t hurt to share them with them. However, it is wise to assume that everyone has their own expectations: no one came into the world to fulfill yours, and you were not born to fulfill those of others.