No One Can Put Themselves In Your Shoes
Why is it so hard for people to understand us? Why can’t they understand our mood swings? For one simple reason: no one can put themselves in your shoes.
But don’t get confused. It happens to you too. Experiences, what a person truly lives and suffers, only he or she knows. Even if you can understand her, you will never get to the point of living the same as her, of feeling in her skin, of putting yourself in the person’s shoes.
Overcoming pain helps us grow
On many occasions we wanted to ease or heal the pain of another person who was suffering. And how we wish they could do the same for us! That someone could come and free us from this pain that makes us completely unhappy.
Unfortunately this is something that also makes us live things for ourselves, live them in our own skin, so that we can go on being completely different people, full of experiences.
Each of us must suffer when necessary. It sounds hard to say, but we will go through a lot of negative experiences that will make us cry, that will make us depressed, that will make us really suffer.
Going through them, overcoming all this pain, will allow us to grow and advance. Pain is not negative, it is an extra feeling, as we are beings full of emotions and feelings.
The pain is unique
It is clear that people can understand what is happening to you because you are hurting. But what they can understand is only a small part. Really, the bulk of it all is you who are living and experiencing.
You must feel this pain, suffer it and express it in order to heal yourself. As Bernardo Stamateas says “There is no need to exhaust the pain” . If you have to cry until there are no more tears left, do it. If it has to hurt until it reaches its limits, it hurts. That yes, this is your life and no one can put themselves in your place. Keep in mind that no one can put themselves in someone else’s shoes.
the pain must leave
Sometimes we try to hide that we are going through a bad time, in an attempt not to draw attention or not wanting to give the importance that it has. Sooner or later, it all comes out.
Even if you don’t want to, you’ll explode, no matter how much you hold back, you’ll end up manifesting. Maybe not in the way you wanted, but that was your fault. You must take away this pain, it must allow your wound to heal well.
If you don’t express how you feel, if you don’t talk to someone you trust and let off steam, you also can’t want people to put themselves in your shoes, even if no one can. Nobody will be aware of what you’re going through if you don’t speak, don’t express yourself. People may have an idea, but it might not be the right one.
Although, as we mentioned before, no one ever really puts himself in his shoes, the truth is that they can try, but you are the only one who lives this; they can only approximate what you are experiencing.
Clearly this will not be the same thing, but it will allow people to understand you and you will have the support you need. Certainly there are many shoulders willing to be wet with your tears, certainly there are many hands outstretched so that when you fall you can get back up.
Understanding the pain helps
No one will ever be able to put themselves in your shoes, but they will be able to understand and assess the situation you are going through. Even if you understand perfectly, the path and the pain are yours. You are the only person who will go through this, only you will get over it.
Speak up, express your pain, share it, but don’t seek instant relief as everything has its own time. Look for some light on this path that is now dark, try to make people understand your problem, even if they can’t put themselves in your place.
All of this will allow you to heal your pain as quickly as possible. It’s better than ignoring it, it’s better than waiting for time to heal, it’s better than wanting people to put themselves in your shoes without really knowing what you’re going through.
